Reflective Blog

I work a lot with sexual issues in my practice, both with individuals and with couples. The one thing that repeatedly enters the room is people's preconceptions on how to have a healthy and regular sex life, especially when one seems less interested in it than the other. The expectation that first comes desire, then comes arousal, and sex follows from this is an illusion; this only happens in the early-dopamine-filled days of a relationship. In long-term happy and sustainable

The way we stand, we sit and we walk, may be unconscious to us but holds our entire history of relationships and experiences. Maybe we hold ourselves upright, chest open, shoulders relaxed, steady footing, long spine, open face, soft jaw, denoting confidence, open-ness and hope. Maybe our shoulders are curling in, our legs and our walk are heavy, our pelvis tight, our chin pointing downwards, denoting protection, deflation, caution. We can ask ourselves the question, what doe