What happens to a couple when both people are changing, but neither has much left to give? I was listening to the Gottmans this morning as I was getting ready for a day of therapy sessions. One of the things I particularly appreciate about them is that they use their own relationship in their teaching. They are not presenting an immaculate version of coupledom; they speak about themselves as a real couple, with warmth, humour, difference and vulnerability. The conversation wa
